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Lab Notes: I May Be the Problem, but I Would Like More Evidence

A Lab Note on self-awareness, failed connections, and premature emotional prosecution

Self-awareness is useful, but modern relationship advice can make every failed connection feel like evidence against you. I am willing to consider that I may be the problem. I would simply like the investigation to remain open.

Filed Jul 20, 2026 · Tone: funny, thoughtful, self-aware, balanced · Type: Lab Note, personal essay, evergreen, opinion, social-friendly · Research: low · 6 min read

Topics: Communication, Dating Culture, Human Behavior, Singleness · Tags: accountability, compatibility, dating patterns, Overthinking, personal growth, rejection, self-awareness, self-reflection

User Manual: First Dates

How to meet another human while pretending this is a normal amount of pressure

First dates were designed to help two people determine whether they enjoy each other’s company. In practice, they involve rehearsed stories, menu anxiety, accidental interviews, and both people pretending not to evaluate everything.

Filed Jul 4, 2026 · Tone: helpful / awkward / absurd / strangely accurate · Type: evergreen, social-friendly, video-friendly · Research: low · 7 min read

Topics: Awkwardness, Communication, Dating Culture, Human Behavior · Tags: compatibility, conversation, dating anxiety, dating awkwardness, First Dates, romantic chemistry, social cues